Eight apps for couples, by what each one is actually for
Paired, Lasting, Agapé, Gottman Card Decks, Spicer, Between, RemindHer and ours, compared for a couple by price, content and what each is for.
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Quick answer
For a daily question backed by a large library of expert-written quizzes and courses: Paired. For a structured, counseling-style course on a specific problem: Lasting. For one light question a day, free to start: Agapé. For free, research-based conversation cards: Gottman Card Decks. For a large bank of intimate questions where only what you both said yes to is shown: Spicer. For a private chat for the two of you: Between. For handing tasks to one owner on Google Calendar: RemindHer. For a weekly check-in, private notes, date ideas and the mental load inside the household app you already run, out of sight of the kids and with no ads: ours.
"An app for couples" means two different things. One is a course: a library of questions, quizzes and lessons written by therapists and researchers, delivered a little at a time. The other is a set of tools: somewhere to leave a note, pick a date, or split the household's jobs fairly, where the content is whatever the two of you put in. Most of the well-known names are the first kind.
This list runs from the most content to the least. We make one of the eight and it is marked. Every price here is from each product's own site or its app store listing, checked in September 2026. None of the other paid apps publishes a price on its own website, so where we quote one it is the range its App Store listing shows, which can differ by country and offer.
The list
Paired
Best for: A couple who wants a daily habit with a large library of expert-written questions, quizzes and courses
The biggest content library here: a daily question each partner answers before seeing the other's, plus quizzes, games and guided journeys, more than 1,000 of them by its own count, with named therapists and academics behind them. That library is the product, and it is the thing we do not make. It runs on iPhone and Android; we found no web app.
Cost: Free to download. Paired Premium is a subscription; its site publishes no price, and its App Store listing shows $14.99 a month or annual plans from $39.99 to $74.99. One subscription covers both partners.
Lasting
Best for: A couple working on a specific problem who want a structured, counseling-style course
Lasting is a Talkspace company, and it reads like one: short guided sessions on communication, conflict, repair and sexual connection, modelled on couples counseling, where both partners answer reflection questions and the app compares them. If the two of you are working on something specific, a curriculum is what you want, and a therapist is one step away. It runs on iPhone and Android; its iPhone app was last updated in February 2025.
Cost: Free to start, with a five-session Foundations series. Lasting Premium is a subscription with a free trial of 7 days; its site publishes no price, and its App Store listing shows $11.99 to $79.99, with a Lasting Plus tier at $29.99 to $89.99.
Agapé
Best for: A couple, including a long-distance one, who wants one light question a day
One personalized question a day, and once you have both answered you see each other's responses. Its questions are vetted by a psychology professor at the University of Rochester, and it also works between friends and family, not only couples. It runs on iPhone and Android.
Cost: Free to download and use, by its own FAQ. Premium is a subscription with a free trial and no card, of a length its site does not state; its App Store listing shows $9.99 to $14.99 a month, $19.99 to $99.99 a year, or $199.99 for life.
Gottman Card Decks
Best for: A couple who talks face to face and wants research-based questions for free
More than 1,000 cards of questions, statements and ideas from the Gottman Institute's couples workshop, published by Affective Software with the Institute's backing. It is one phone passed between two people: no partner account, nothing answered separately, nothing kept between you. For a conversation at the kitchen table that is enough, and it costs nothing. It runs on iPhone and Android.
Cost: Free, with no in-app purchases.
Spicer
Best for: A couple who wants a very large bank of intimate questions, answered separately and matched
Both partners answer the same questions Yes, Maybe or No, and only an idea you both said Yes or Maybe to becomes a match; nothing else is shown. It has by far the most content for that conversation: more than 12,000 questions by its own count, in seven languages, plus challenges drawn from your matches. It says it collects no personal information and links partners by a code. It runs on iPhone and in a web browser; we found no Android app.
Cost: Free, with paid question packs. Spicer Plus is a subscription or a lifetime purchase; its App Store listing shows $6.99, $59.99, and $109.99 for life, without saying which period the first two buy.
Between
Best for: A couple, especially a long-distance one, who wants a private chat for the two of them
A messenger with exactly one contact: chat, free voice calls, a shared photo album, a calendar and anniversary countdowns. It is the only real-time chat on this list, and if the two of you mostly talk by text, it keeps that apart from every other thread on your phone. It runs on iPhone and Android, with downloads for Windows and Mac.
Cost: Free with ads. Between Plus removes them: $2.99 a month, $24.99 a year or $26.99 for life, per its App Store listing.
Best for: A couple whose problem is handing tasks to one owner, on Google Calendar
Built around the mental load: say a task, and it lands on a shared calendar with one owner, who alone gets the reminders. Voice capture is the centre of it, and it syncs with Google Calendar. It is an organizer for two rather than a relationship app. It runs on iPhone and Android.
Cost: Free to start, with optional premium features. Its site publishes no price, member limit or trial length.
Chickadee Bandit
That's usBest for: A couple who wants the two of them, privately, inside the household app they already run
The couples apps live inside your household and are adults only, so the kids never see them. Relationship Check-In asks one question a week, and both answers appear at the same moment, enforced on the server. Love Notes is a private inbox between the two of you. Date Night Planner picks from your own ideas at random, and Couples Bucket List keeps the longer list. Mental Load tracks who owns each household job, on the Fair Play model. Desire Sync tells you only when you both signalled in the same window, and Intimacy Jar draws from ideas you each added privately. What we do not have: expert-written courses, audio, a library of thousands of questions, or a chat app; the content is what the two of you put in. It runs on iPhone, Android and the web, with no ads.
Cost: $6/mo or $60/yr for the whole household on the Family plan, up to 10 members, with a 30-day free trial and no card. All seven couples apps are included.
Prices and features are from each product's own site as of September 2026; where a product has a head-to-head page here, its entry restates that page. Products change — always check the other product's site for current details.
Ours, on two phones
A weekly check-in: answer privately, read it together
Love notes and date nights
A bucket list you both add to
Choosing between them
- If you want someone else to write the questions, and a lot of them, Paired.
- If you are working on a specific problem and want a structured course, Lasting. If the problem is bigger than an app, see a couples therapist.
- If you want one light question a day and would rather not pay, Agapé, or Gottman Card Decks if you are in the same room.
- If the conversation you are avoiding is about sex, Spicer, where only what you both said yes to is ever shown.
- If the two of you mostly talk by text, Between.
- If the friction is the household's tasks, RemindHer, or the Fair Play card deck at the kitchen table.
- If you want a weekly check-in, notes, date nights and the mental load kept inside the household app you already use, private from the kids, that is what we built.
Content or tools
Paired, Lasting, Agapé and Gottman Card Decks sell content: what you pay for is the question you would not have thought to ask. Ours is the other kind. Relationship Check-In has a built-in deck, but most of what our couples apps hold is what you write: your date ideas, your notes, your list of household jobs. If you would rather be guided, pay for a course. If the two of you already know what you want to talk about and need a structure that keeps it happening, tools are enough.
Privacy
Every one of these asks you to put something personal in writing. Check where it is kept, who can read it, and whether you can take it with you. Spicer says it collects no personal information and links partners by a code; ours keeps each household in its own encrypted database, keeps the couples apps away from the kids, and exports everything at any time.
Two you may have heard of
Kindu, the original yes-no-maybe app for couples, is no longer in either app store and its site is gone. Fair Play, Eve Rodsky's method for dividing household work, is a book and a physical card deck, not an app; our Mental Load follows the same model.
What none of them does
None of these is therapy, including the ones written by therapists. If the two of you are stuck, or one of you is unsafe, see a professional. And none of them imports another's history, so if you switch, write down what you want to keep before you delete the old one.
The feature list is not fixed
Every other product on this page is a fixed set of features: it does what it does, and a need it did not anticipate gets a no. Chickadee Bandit is built from small apps, and a household can add one of its own. An admin describes the app in a paragraph on the Apps page and the hub builds and installs it, using the AI credits that come with every plan; someone who writes code can start from any of the open-source apps and install their own version from a URL. A custom app gets the same checks as the ones we ship: it declares what it reads and writes, keeps its data in your household's own database, and the hub refuses anything it did not ask for.
Where this list comes from
We make one of the products on it, and it is marked. Every claim about another product was checked against that product's own pricing and feature pages on the date above — not against another review site — and where we could not find a published price we say so rather than quote one. The order is by what each product is for, not a ranking of merit.
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