The two of you, inside the household
A few small structures, so that not every conversation is about who collects whom.
More than a handover
Two people running a household end up talking like colleagues who are slightly behind. Did you book the dentist. Can you get her at four. Nothing is wrong, and yet every exchange is logistics, and the conversation you meant to have waits for an evening when you both have energy at once.
The couples apps on Chickadee Bandit live inside the household you already run, and they are adults only, so the kids never see them. They do not teach you anything. They keep a question, a note and a date night happening in the weeks when neither of you would have started one.
A weekly check-in: answer privately, read it together
Relationship Check-In
One question a week, from a built-in deck or your own. Each of you answers privately, and both answers appear at the same moment, so neither of you writes a reply to the other.
Love Notes
A private inbox for short notes, compliments and reminders, for two people who are not in the house at the same time. Nobody else in the household sees it.
Date nights and the bucket list
Collect date ideas when you think of them, and let Surprise Me pick one when you are both too tired to decide. The bucket list keeps the longer plans, with a note and a photo when you do one.
The mental load
Name the household's invisible jobs, from meals to birthdays to the bills, see who owns each one, and rebalance together, on the Fair Play model.
Desire Sync
Each of you signals privately, and you are told only when you both did, in the same window. If only one of you signalled, nobody learns that.
Intimacy Jar
One jar you both add ideas to, privately, drawn at random when neither of you wants to be the one to ask.
The others, on two phones
Love notes and date nights
The mental load, made visible
A bucket list you both add to
What it costs, and who it fits
The couples apps are included in the household plan, $6/mo or $60/yr for up to 10 members, alongside the calendar, chores and everything else the household runs on. There are no ads, and each household keeps its own encrypted database.
We do not write courses or quizzes, and there is no library of thousands of questions, no audio and no chat app: the content is what the two of you put in. If you want to be guided by a therapist's curriculum, one of the content apps will suit you better, and none of these is therapy. See the apps for couples we'd consider, compared by what each is for, or read the guide to staying connected as a couple.
Getting started
Install Mental Load first if the household's jobs are the friction, and Relationship Check-In if they are not. Pick a day for the weekly question and keep it, and add a few cheap date ideas on a good evening so the list is ready on a tired one.